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One
of the hallmarks of an emotionally mature person is their ability to accept
blame when they deserve it. These people don't instantly apologize for every
perceived transgression, but they accept responsibility when they know they did
wrong. When they make mistakes, they own them and learn from them. If they wrong
someone, they apologize and offer a solution. If you struggle to accept blame
when you deserve it and you want to change, here are nine steps that can get
you started.
1. Recognize The Mistake You
Made
You
can't possibly begin to accept blame until you recognize you did something
wrong. Take some time to consider how your actions affected yourself and the
people around you. Carefully consider what you did, and try to think of ways to
avoid making the same mistake in the future.
2. Stop Hesitating
Once
you know you have made a mistake, it is time to own up to it. It makes sense to
reflect on your actions first, but it is important to address the situation in
a timely fashion once that is done. The longer you wait, the more awkward
things will get, and the less gracious your acceptance will seem.
3. Address The Aggrieved Party
Directly
If
someone else is negatively affected by your actions or mistakes, you need to
address them directly. Don't pass on a message through someone else. You don't
want to post a cryptic message on social media, either. If you wronged someone,
at the very least, you owe them a direct response.
4. Don't Beat Around The Bush
When
it's time to accept blame, make sure you don't waste a bunch of time skirting
around the issue. People usually do this because they are nervous or trying to
seem less responsible for the issue. It comes off as weak and sneaky, though.
Directly identify what you did and why you are taking the blame.
5. Don't Try to Shift The
Blame
If
you know you messed up, you need to accept the blame fully. This means you
don't try to blame other people or circumstances for your actions. No matter
what outside influences may have contributed to your actions, take the blame
without trying to pass the buck.
6. Offer a Sincere Apology Or
Explanation
If
your mistake hurt someone else, you should prepare to offer a sincere apology
or explanation. Remember, you shouldn't use an apology or explanation to shift
blame. The apology should be heartfelt and thoughtful. An explanation should
only be offered if requested.
7. Volunteer to Help Solve The
Problem
Once
you have accepted the blame, you should offer some sort of solution. If you
can't think of a specific solution, then offer to help find one. The last thing
you want to do is wait until someone asks you for a solution. Take the
initiative and offer recompense.
8. Accept The Consequences
Graciously
Some
things are out of your control. If you wronged someone close to you, you risk
damaging the relationship. If you made a mistake with your finances, you might
cost yourself money. Whatever action you have to take the blame for, there will
likely be consequences you can't control. Accept these consequences, and make a
plan to move on.
9. Reflect on Your Actions
Once
you have properly taken responsibility and accepted the consequences, take some
time to reflect on the situation. Try to pinpoint a couple of lessons you have
learned and think about how you can avoid similar situations in the future.
Finally, forgive yourself and move on.
ACTIONABLE STEPS
a) Think
about any recent mistakes, arguments, or misunderstandings you have had
recently.
b) Were
you to blame for any of them? It can be tough to admit blame, so you will have
to think carefully and thoughtfully about this.
c) If
you do need to take the blame, own it. Address the situation and accept blame
as soon as possible.
FURTHER
Affiliate links:
1. The Tao of Fully Feeling: Harvesting Forgiveness out of Blame
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3. Beyond Blame
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4. Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error
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5. Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me)
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