TIPS REPORT 40: WHEN IS IT TIME TO QUIT?

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Quite often, we view quitting in a negative light. How many times have you heard something like "Winners never quit" or "quitters never win." The thing is, quitting isn't always wrong. Sometimes quitting is the first step to us finding a new and better path. You quit your old job so that you can get a new and better job. You quit a sport, so you can focus all your energy on the one you truly love. Below you will find nine signs that it might be time to quit and move on.

 

1. Your Task Takes Your Entire Life Over

If there is any task or goal that has become so all-consuming it takes over all other areas of your life, then you might consider moving on from it. If you are devoting massive amounts of your energy, and the rest of your results are suffering, is it worth continuing?

 

2. There is an Obviously Better Opportunity

Some people are naturally very loyal. Whether it is a job, your own business, or just a goal you have been working on, it can be hard to give it up. However, if there is an obviously better opportunity around the corner, why not take it? You aren't giving up if you quit your job to take on a better role. You are leveling up.

 

3. You Feel Stuck or Stagnant

Do you feel like you are stuck in life? Maybe your career or certain goals seem to have stagnated. If so, this could be a cue that it is time to quit. Life moves fast, and if all you are doing is standing still, you could get left behind. Sometimes quitting a job or goal that keeps you stuck allows you to move forward in the long run.

 

4. You Don't Respect What You Are Doing

Not all of us are blessed to be doing work that fills us with joy and fulfillment. Sometimes we have to deal with that until we find something better. However, if you are doing something that you don't even respect, and it fills you with remorse or shame - how long can you wait before you quit?

 

5. You Are Being Undervalued

We live in a cutthroat world, and sometimes the people in our lives, be it our employers or relationships, don't value us. If you feel like a company or your romantic partner doesn't value you as much as you deserve, consider this a sign it might be time to move on.

 

6. You Are Never Happy

Do you find that you are miserable more than you are not? If so, there is likely something in your life you need to quit. It could be an unfulfilling goal, career, or relationship. Once you figure out what it is, you will likely feel instantly better once you give it up.

 

7. When All You Have Left is Your Pride

Have you ever had a goal or task you've been working on for so long that it didn't even benefit you anymore? If you are working on something that doesn't benefit you at all just because you are too prideful to quit, it is a clear sign you should at least consider it.

 

8. You Are Self-Destructive

Do you have a self-destructive side? Have you found yourself engaging in more damaging habits and behaviors? If so, there may be something in your life that isn't working. You should strive to figure out what it is. Once you do, don't be afraid to quit it and move on to something else.

 

9. Your Goal Doesn't Align With Your Values

If your goals, career, or business don't align with your values, you should consider giving it up. You can fool yourself for a little while (even a long while), but your actions not matching your values will catch up with you. Your results will suffer, and you will never feel fulfilled. If your goals don't match your values, consider dropping them and setting a new version that aligns with who you are.

 

FAST-ACTION STEPS

 

a) Assess your current goals. Do your current goals still match your values? Are they still propelling you forward?

 

b) Assess your career. Are you happy and fulfilled? Do you have room for advancement? Do you have any other opportunities available?

 

c) Assess your relationships. Are you getting everything you need from people in your life? Is anyone holding you back or draining your energy?

 

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TIPS REPORT 39: STOP WASTING YOUR TIME

 This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take right away. It also includes a list of suggested readings for those who are looking for even more information. 

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Time is the great equalizer. No matter who you are, you have 24 hours to use each day. For many of us, though, these hours are mostly already spoken for. Between sleep, family duties, work, and - if we are lucky - a little socializing, there isn't much time left. It's important that any time we do use is used well. Here are nine tips that can help you avoid wasting your time.

 

1. Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No

Do you ever find that you take on more than you can handle? Try saying no a little more often. While it's important to be a good friend or a team player, you don't have to take on every task someone asks of you. If you take the time to do someone else's work, you lose that time somewhere else in your life.

 

2. Focus on One Major Task Each Day

We aren't suggesting that you only do one thing per day, but it can help to have a guiding light goal. Think about one thing or theme to focus on that day. When you are in-between tasks, you won't find yourself wasting time wondering what to do next. You'll always have this guiding light goal to come back to.

 

3. You Don't Have to Respond Right Away

Whether it is a text, a phone call, or an email, you don't have to respond right away. If you are waiting on something specific and time-sensitive, that is one thing. However, a cold call, random email, or social media notification can usually wait. Choose a time (or a few) to check your messages all at once each day.

 

4. Figure Out Your Time-Wasting Triggers

Do you have any triggers that almost always lead to you wasting time? Maybe going to get a coffee leads to a 35-minute chat about nothing. Do you fall down Youtube holes after watching a single video? Most of us have little triggers like these, and it's important to know them so you can avoid them when time is tight.

 

5. Make Time for Self-Care

Doing things that are important for your mental and physical health is not a waste of time. It might seem weird we would suggest taking time for yourself to save time. Think about it, though, if you get sick, exhausted, or burnt-out, you will have to spend a lot of time to get back on track. Making time for self-care means that you can use your time more effectively in the long term.

 

6. Get Organized

How much time do you waste looking for something you misplaced? How about digging in the back of a cupboard looking for something you are "sure is there"? Getting organized so that everything you need has a logical space is one of the best ways to stop wasting time needlessly.

 

7. Stop Doom-Scrolling

I understand that we live in some trying times. Even worse, we are constantly connected to streams of news. It is easy to scroll Twitter, Tiktok, or your local news sites consuming constant updates on what is wrong today. Would you please break this habit? Not only does it waste time, but the negative energy also impacts the rest of your day.

 

8. Other People's Problems Aren't Always Yours

You can make a deliberate choice to refuse to be dragged into office gossip or friend drama. You should support those you love, but you don't have to get involved in everyone's problems. Why waste time (not to mention energy) worrying about the squabbles other people are involved in.

 

9. Build Your Self-Confidence

This might seem like an odd tip for "time management," but it might be the single most powerful step you can take to stop wasting time. Confident people make quicker decisions, take more decisive action, and don't need to wait until every detail is perfected. Think about how much time you would save in your life if you could say the same about yourself.

 

FAST-ACTION STEPS

 

a) What is your most important goal for tomorrow? Write down what your main focus will be tomorrow (or today if it is early enough).

 

b) Organize one aspect of your life right now. It can be as simple as your desk drawer, optimizing your email folders, or even just your computer's desktop.

 

c) What are your time-wasting triggers? Next time you find yourself wasting time, think back and reflect on what may have triggered it.

 

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TIPS REPORT 38: LIMITED THINKING PATTERNS

 This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take right away. It also includes a list of suggested readings for those who are looking for even more information. 

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Many people believe that positive thinking and manifestation are important tools that propel us towards our goals, but what about the opposite? Limited thinking can be as much of a burden as positive thinking is a boon. It is one of several ways that we self-sabotage our success. If you aren't sure what limited thinking is, here are nine examples. If you engage in these thinking patterns, you must address them, or your success might suffer.

 

1. All or Nothing

This limited thinking pattern hinders your ability to see nuance. You are either a massive success, or you are a lowly failure. Routinely thinking like this holds us back by not allowing us to see progress or growth. It doesn't allow us to find a "middle ground."

 

2. Focus on The Negative

Negative thinking is one of the most discussed topics in the self-help world. We all know the negative impact this type of thinking can have on our life. If you are the type of person whose mind filters all information through a negative lens, you won't be as happy or successful as you deserve.

 

3. Overgeneralization

This thinking pattern is best described as taking a single incident and drawing broad conclusions about it. For example, you fail at something so then decide it is worthless, you are lousy, and you'll never figure it out. Besides being overly negative, this thinking process isn't logical. Try to stop thinking in absolutes.

 

4. Mind Reading

It is impossible to read someone's mind. Even if you are highly intuitive, you can't know for sure what someone is thinking. If you are the type of person that makes quick assumptions about others or thinks you know the "real reason" they acted in a certain way, then you might be suffering from this thinking pattern.

 

5. Fixed Mindset

A fixed mindset is an idea that things are how they are, and there is no reason to change. You trust your abilities (which is great), but you never see a reason to grow or change. If you aren't growing and changing as a person, you are standing still, letting the world pass you by.

 

6. Stuck on How

This type of limited thinking is when you get too wrapped up in the idea of "how." For example, how will you ever reach your goals? While having a plan is important, sometimes we can't possibly know all the details of accomplishing something. You can't allow this to stop you from taking action, though.

 

7. Catastrophizing

Are you the type of person to assume the absolute worst of any situation? Does a small obstacle in your path make you think the sky is falling? If so, you are likely suffering from catastrophizing. This limited thinking pattern makes us always expect the worst. If you don't deal with it, you will be too paralyzed by fear and indecision to grow truly.

 

8. A Case of The “Shoulds”

If you ever get caught up worrying about the way things "should" be instead of how they are, you might be dealing with this limited thinking pattern. You expect the universe and other people to act according to your preconceived standards and cannot adapt when they don't.

 

9 Personalization

Not everything is about you. Did you need to hear that? If so, you might be suffering from personalization. This limited thinking pattern means you take everything personally. Not everything that happens to you is a personal slight or shortcoming. Sometimes things simply don't work out, and it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you.

 

FAST-ACTION STEPS

 

a) Go through the list of limited thinking patterns. Put a quick checkmark beside any that you think you might have.

 

b) Now go through the list of the check-marked thinking patterns and prioritize them by how much you think they affect you. Start with number one being the most and work your way down.

 

c) Try to break your limited thinking patterns one at a time. Starting at the top of your list ensures you tackle the most important promptly.

 

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Meeting former students.

As a teacher, there is nothing more rewarding than seeing your former students succeed and achieve great things in life. It brings a deep sense of satisfaction and joy to know that the efforts put into their education have paid off and contributed to their growth and success. It is a great feeling to meet old students and see how well they are doing, and to know that you played a small part in their journey towards success.

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 Today was one such day when I had the opportunity to catch up with some of my former students from last year. We had lunch together, and it was great to see how much they had grown and matured since we last met. We reminisced about the old days, talked about their current endeavors, and shared stories about life after school.

During the course of the conversation, I was thrilled to hear that they had all done well in their studies and were now pursuing their dreams with great enthusiasm and passion. It was clear that they had taken the lessons learned in my classes and applied them to their lives, and it filled me with pride and joy.

Later that evening, I had the pleasure of meeting another former student who shared how much she had learned from my classes. She talked about how my teachings had helped her develop new skills, broaden her perspective, and become more confident in her abilities. Hearing such feedback from a former student was truly humbling and reminded me of the importance of the work that we do as educators.

Overall, it was a fantastic day that left me feeling fulfilled and energized. As a teacher, there is no greater reward than seeing your former students grow and succeed, and I am grateful for the opportunity to be a small part of their journey. I look forward to staying in touch with them and continuing to support their growth and success in any way that I can.

TIPS REPORT 37: BECOME MORE ADAPTABLE

This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take right away. It also includes a list of suggested readings for those who are looking for even more information. 

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It might be an understatement to say, but we are living in some uncertain times. To be fair, though, there has never been a time when people could be certain exactly how their lives would play out. That's life. We can't possibly plan for every outcome, so we must adapt when we are faced with new realities. Do you feel like you are adaptable? Could you switch your approach to life if needed? If this makes you nervous to even think about, check out these nine tips that will help you become more adaptable.

 

1. Have a Guiding Light

Life is going to throw all kinds of surprising situations and obstacles in your path. If you have a guiding light or a purpose, you will find it easier to adapt and get back on track. Even if your short-term goals and plans are ruined, you will know your general direction and adjust accordingly.

 

2. Get out of Your Comfort Zone

If you keep on doing the same things over and over again, you are not going to be prepared when you are forced to adapt. If you want to become more adaptable, you have to get used to living outside your comfort zone. This way, you will be more comfortable when forced to make a change.

 

3. Practice With Low-Stake Activities

Adaptability is like any skill. You can hone and strengthen it through repeated use. If you aren't good at rolling with the punches, try starting small. Something as simple as changing your work route could help you become more adaptable in the long run.

 

4. Commit to Learning

There is no reason to stop learning just because you are done with school. A hallmark of adaptability is having a wide spectrum of knowledge. You will find it much easier to adjust your approach if you have the skills and knowledge you need.

 

5. Stay On Top of Current Events

While watching the news every night can be hard, you should strive to stay on top of current events and trends. Spotting an emerging trend that might affect you will help you prepare for any adjustments you have to make.

 

6. Treat Mistakes and Failures as Lessons

Life is going to be full of mistakes and failures. This is especially true if you are regularly forced to adapt to changing circumstances. Even the best-laid plans can be affected by forces out of our control. The key is to get used to failure and use it as an opportunity to learn something new.

 

7. Say "Yes" More Often

People are often told they should "no" more often. The idea is it will give you back your time and set healthy boundaries. This is all true! However, some of us may need to say "yes" more often. By accepting new and different challenges, you will be training your adaptability.

 

8. Let Go of Attachment

The idea of attachment is a key tenet of Buddhism. Our inability to detach from our ideas of how things should be is what holds us back from a fulfilled life. This is good advice for those who struggle with adaptability. When you let go of your idea of how things need to be, you make it easier to adjust when things go wrong.

 

9. Build Your Mental Toughness

Change, upheaval, and unexpected obstacles aren't easy. They are going to test you, and they might even break some of us. You should find ways to build your mental toughness so that you can face new challenges head-on. It won't happen overnight, but you can boost your mental toughness. If you want to adapt to a rapidly changing world, you might have to.

 

FAST-ACTION STEPS

 

a) What is your guiding light? Think about where you ultimately want to end up in life.

 

b) Learn something new. It's time to brush up on an old skill or learn an entirely new one.

 

c) What are some emerging trends in your industry? How will you adapt to these?

 

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TIPS REPORT 36: MAINTAINING FRIENDSHIPS

 This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take right away. It also includes a list of suggested readings for those who are looking for even more information. 

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In our hearts, we are social creatures. Even the most introverted of us require social interaction from time to time. Even if it is just a few, having trusted friends helps make our lives a little brighter and more fulfilling. As we grow, age and transition, it can be harder to maintain these friendships. Luckily, if you remember these nine tips, you will be able to maintain any friendship.

 

1. Be Honest

Most of our relationships are based on honesty. If we aren't honest with our friends (and vice versa), then our whole friendship might be predicated on these falsehoods. We should be honest with our friends because they deserve it.

 

1. Learn to Keep Secrets

There will be times when our friends need us to keep a secret. Now, of course, these shouldn't be secrets that hurt other friends, but we should be willing to keep secrets for the most part. It's important friends know they can trust us.

 

3. Make Time For Friends

We need to strive to make time for our friends. We all live our own fast-paced lives, but it's important to carve out at least a little time for our friends. What's the point of friendship if we don't even have time for the people in our lives?

 

4. Show Up When Needed

It is especially important to make time for our friends when they need us most. In times of great need, who do we want support from? Our friends! The same is true for them as well.

 

5. Give Friends Space

While we need to spend time with friends, we also need to give our friends space when they need it. We can't take it personally if our friends ask for a little space, it's likely they need it, and it doesn't reflect on us at all.

 

6. Take It Easy

We need to try and remember that we all have our own lives. Sometimes plans will fall through. Life happens to all of us, so we need to keep our expectations in check when dealing with our friends.

 

7. Show Your Appreciation

While most of our best friendships don't require much management, it's still important that we share our appreciation with our friends. It's always nice to know that someone cares and appreciates us, so make sure your friends know it.

 

8. Address Your Misunderstandings

Even the best friendships will have their fair share of misunderstandings. The key is to make sure these misunderstandings don't linger or take a turn for the worse. We need to address any issues we have with our friends in a timely and mature fashion.

 

9. Be a Positive Force

This might be the most important tip of all. When it comes to our friendships, we should strive to be a positive force. We should build our friends up, support them and introduce positivity into their lives.

 

FAST-ACTION STEPS

 

a) Think about your most important friendships. Who are the people in your life that you count on being there?

 

b) Reach out to a friend that you haven't spoken to in a while. Check in to see how they are doing.

 

c) Show your appreciation to someone you care about. It could be as simple as a message or something more substantial like a gift.

 

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TIPS REPORT 35: EMBRACING YOUR LATER YEARS

 This report includes nine powerful tips and three actionable steps you can take right away. It also includes a list of suggested readings for those who are looking for even more information. 

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No matter where you look, you will see the signs of a society obsessed with youth culture. Youthful people are on magazine covers, TV shows, and run social media. There are countless advertisements about regaining your youthful exuberance or keeping your skin looking young. Entering their older years can make you feel a little down - only if you let it, though! It would be best if you didn't fear aging. It should be embraced and enjoyed. If you are struggling with that, try these nine tips.

 

1. Explore Your Hobbies

With your kids growing up, you might find you have a bit more time to yourself—what a perfect chance to pick up a new and exciting hobby. Choose something you have always wanted to do, and go for it! If you had an old hobby, you didn't have the time for, maybe it is time to pick it back up.

 

2. Plot a Follow a Path

You are never too old to set goals. You might have reached more than a few of them to get to this point, but that doesn't mean you can't set more. Setting goals in your later years will help you stay active, motivated, and satisfied.

 

3. Keep Your Body Moving

Regular exercise is important for anyone. But it is especially important as you age. Make sure you get enough cardio in but don't be afraid to lift heavy things. Weightlifting will help you retain the muscle mass you typically lose as you age.

 

4. Let Go of Society’s Expectations

Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do because of your are. Wear what you want, listen to the music you like, and do the activities that excite you. You don't have to accept society's expectations of what it means to age.

 

5. Spend Time with All Ages

Spending time with all sorts of age groups will help you keep things in perspective. Spending time with your grandchildren will remind you of childlike wonder while spending time around your teenage family might make you happy about your maturity. Spending time with your older relatives will help you realize you have much living ahead of you.

 

6. Keep Your Health In Mind

Your health should always be one of your priorities. We mentioned exercise is important, but so is a healthy diet. You should also make sure you take care of your mental, dental, and eye health as well. Regular appointments with your family doctor will help keep you on track.

 

7. Stay Active in the Community

Physical stimulation is important, but so is mental and social stimulation. When you stay active in your local community, be it volunteering or joining a service club, you will feel more satisfied and happier in general.

 

8. Never Stop Learning

It is never too late to learn something new. The internet gives you unparalleled access to learning opportunities. You could also look for local classes if you like a more communal setting. Lastly, no matter what anyone says, it is never too late to

 

9. Try to Stay Positive

Keeping a positive outlook is one of the most important things you can do as you age. If you try to think and act positive, you will likely feel it. If you struggle with positivity, try a mindfulness technique like meditation or journaling.

 

FAST-ACTION STEPS

 

a) Is there anything you'd like to do but are worried you are "too old"? Forget about society's expectations and make a plan to do it!

 

b) Choose a hobby (new or old) and make a plan to get back into it.

 

c) What is something you have always wanted to learn more about? Look up local or online classes that could teach you what you need to know.

 

FURTHER READING

 

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